The Marriage Made Me Do It

Your spouse is having and affair and blames it on the marriage as a result of making some promises and signing a marriage agreement and license, at one point communicating and acting toward one another in particular ways and the love will change. At this point a whole layer of deceit and shame that eventually will result in consequences more dire and leading to divorce attorneys and legal custody battles arises and usually experiences a high degree of guilt and conflict.

This person has found a “significant other” who has stirred those dormant love feelings while providing a need for drama and excitement. Life easily becomes a soap opera with needs to be adored, or think another adores him/her, because there is a lack of inner strength and solid identity. People are especially vulnerable for this type of affair after the children are in school and/or the oldest child reaches early adolescence.

What causes the probabilities of ending a marriage typically occurs in a marriage where effective personal confrontation happens ineffectively. Less romantic movement toward the other person and more movement away from one’s spouse. The tension may be the result of the frustration that one or both experience when they believe their needs for loving are not being met.